June 25, 2013 by Caroline Mincks
I don’t generally post my political views out there in the open on places like Facebook or my blog. This isn’t because my views are secret or because I am afraid to share them, it’s simply because I don’t like starting debates that will more often than not end in arguments between friends and family members who I love for very different reasons. I have taken down more than a few posts because things got heated to the point of flat-out insults and rudeness.
Well, there is one issue that I have decided to go ahead and speak more freely about, and that is marriage equality. I recently got into a debate – it stopped just short of an argument because I bowed out before I got to that point – with a fellow parent who could not understand my views. She proceeded to ask me how I could possibly support same-sex marriage and be a parent. Her opinion, to the best of my understanding, is that marriage equality would bring about some level of societal breakdown, thereby creating a worse world for my child. I did not appreciate her attempting to use parental guilt to shame me for my beliefs, but I told her I didn’t wish to continue our conversation until I had a chance to calm down and come up with a thoughtful response.
A few hours later, I wrote a brief statement. Rather than send it to her, I chose to post it to my Facebook to show my support of my friends and family members who I believe must be awarded the right to marry the person they love, regardless of gender. I thought I would reproduce it here for my blog readers.
I know we may not see eye-to-eye on this issue, and if it costs me some readers, that’s fine. I just hope that those who disagree will at least take the time to read what I have to say and open their hearts a little.
To the person who asked me, “How can you support same-sex marriage if you are a parent?”
I don’t support same-sex marriage despite being a parent.
I support same-sex marriage because I am a parent.
I support marriage equality because I have a child and I wish his happiness above all other things. Whether he likes boys or girls is unimportant to me, just so long as he loves someone worthy of his heart.
I support marriage equality because I support equality across the board. I want to see racial tension dissolve, I want to see equality for women, I want to see discrimination based on age, appearance, native language, you name it, gone. I want my child to grow up seeing equality as a fact, not as a novelty.
I support marriage equality because I believe there is a spectrum for just about everything. Trying to put everyone in little boxes is harmful and only promotes discrimination.
I support marriage equality because I want a better world for my child than the one I live in now. I firmly believe that a world in which no one is treated like a second-class citizen at best and an enemy at worst simply because they are a boy who likes boys or a girl who likes girls is a huge improvement over our current world.
I support marriage equality because I believe it is healthy to love. No matter who you love, love is the best thing you can do for yourself, for those around you, and for the world.
You may call me godless (which is not true).
You may call me a sinner (which is true of everyone).
But you may not tell me I am wrong for wanting these things for my son.
*Steps off soapbox and gives everyone a hug*